7 Rules For Winning Back Your Wifes Heart While You Are Apart

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Question:

My wife and I recently separated and now I really miss her and want to get her back. Is there anything I can to repair our relationship and get back together?

Answer:

Regardless of who the ended the relationship or how it ended, chances are you're looking back now and want your wife back, but can you really hit the 'reset' button and make things better again? While I can't give you specifics about what will work for you and your situation because everyone's is different, I can tell you about some of the most common things that work and don't work when it comes to winning your wife's heart back.

Below I've outlined 3 things you should not do and 4 things that you absolutely must do if you want to get back together with the love of your life.

Don't:

1. Call or harass your wife. This is one of the biggest mistakes that men make when trying to get back with their wives. For starters, it makes you look creepy. Your wife doesn't want to be stalked and she doesn't need to justify her every move to you while you're apart. It's ok to call her every once in a while to check up on her and the kids, but if it gets to a point where you're obsessing over her every move, then I think you've gone too far. Instead, use your time apart constructively. Work on improving yourself and making yourself a more appealing person to your wife so that when you do call to check up on her she's actually excited to talk to you.

2. Don't date lots of women. If you're trying to make your wife jealous by dating other women then you need to do it right or else you'll find yourself alone at the end of the day. The reasons why you want to date while your separated from your wife is not to show her what she's missing or to show off. The reason it's ok to date other women while your separated is to improve your self esteem and self confidence so that when you meet up with your wife your a much happier person and not a basket case.

So how many women should you date? I can't answer that question for you as there is no perfect number. What I suggest you do is put yourself in her shoes and think about how many men you'd like to see your wife date while you're apart and use that as a benchmark.

3. Use the kids. Do not under any circumstance use your kids as ammunition against your wife. Leave your kids out of it altogether. I know it can be an easy trap to fall into, but using your kids as leverage against your wife will not win her heart back. Instead it will drive a wedge into your already strained relationship, so try to keep them out of it as best you can and keep things between you and your wife.

DO:

1. Give her plenty of time and space. Don't worry that she's going to rush out and find someone else to replace you. Just like you, she's probably going out on a few dates, but it's unlikely that she'll have any kind of meaningful and long lasting connection with someone else after the split because it's not easy to get over someone you love and have invested time and effort into.

2. Spend plenty of time doing things that you like to do. Use your time apart to work on yourself and make changes in your life that will make you a better man and a more attractive husband to your wife. You might not be aware of this, but women find men who have goals and direction in their lives to be very attractive and irresistible. And it really doesn't matter what it is, so take a class or upgrade your education but do something that shows your wife that you're investing in yourself.

Doing so will give you two benefits: first it will help take your mind off things during your separation, and secondly it will remind your wife of the fun loving, full of life guy she fell in love with in the first place.

3. Spend quality time with your kids. Your time apart from your wife is a great chance to reconnect to your kids.

Have fun with them and enjoy the time you can spend together, it will be good for all of you.

Remember that your wife chose you over all the other guys and when she did, she chose you to not only be a great husband, but also a great father too!

4. Don't repeat the past. Make it a personal goal that when you and your wife get back together that you won't repeat the same mistakes that brought you to this point in the first place. Use the time apart to analyze your marriage and the role that you played... and then resolve to make the changes necessary to save your relationship.

These 7 tips are a great starting point for getting your wife back . The bottom line is that if you really want to win her back , you have to show her that you are a man worth her time. She will likely be scared of getting hurt again, so you'll have to show her that her heart is safe with you.